What Men Really Think
I once read something about men sizing other men up by how the lady on their arm looks. It said that men notice a woman’s well kept appearance more than her actual beauty or size, when they are evaluating a man’s success. If his lady is well kept looking they think of him as a successful lucky man no matter what size or how beautiful she is. I asked my sweetheart if that was true, because frankly I couldn’t quite believe that, but John told me that it’s true and I certainly believe him.
He told me that it’s part of my allure to him that my nails are always well cared for and I dress well and appropriately for my age (not too young or frumpy either). He said it makes my beauty (remember he loves me LOL) even more beautiful and attractive. He’s proud to be seen with me, and he’s sure other men think he is successful to have made such a catch!
So gussy on up your beautiful self and know that you will be sending out the right message that will have people admiring how well you look! Gussy up that attitude too, you will be so much more attractive! And that goes for you guys as well. I always notice a man’s appearance more than his looks. If he’s clean, neat, and looks like he gives a hoot about how he looks he sends a powerful statement of confidence and success.
No matter what gender you are, success is always alluring, look at some of the Hollywood set and other celebs who in actuality are not beautiful or handsome but they are adored by so many and have partners that a less successful person would never think they could attract.
Get busy today and Sport Your Stuff and then work for even more success! You are all Rockstars as long as you keep working it! And thanks Jackie for jogging my brain this morning with your comment, it gussied up my attitude for sure!
I read a book about two years ago that had a chapter on the same. Its hard to believe its not all about size but I guess it is true. Since, Ive tried to dress nicer, not just old tees.
Interesting, I never really thought about it that way ! Thanks for the tip ! It really opened my eyes to take more pride in myself ! Hugs, Kimmi
It’s so true …. when I dress up (size large,larger or not so large)I always feel better and this generally affects my day. When I dress down - which I have been doing more so lately, especially to work) I feel - and act - more slobby.
So, tomorrow I’ll be wearing something smart with my red Rockstar shoes, raiding the makeup bag etc… watch out London!!
I would never have guessed that. It sure makes me feel better and makes me want to take better care of myself and my appearance.
I think this is very true. Sure helps me when I feel like I am putting my best foot forward. Affects everything, how you act, your attitude, etc. Great reminder!
I actually went to a couples seminar at my church a few weeks ago and that was one of his comments (they separated the men and women by this time) was simply to “seek to be the unforgettable woman in your husband’s life”. Although not married yet, I took this to heart with my boyfriend and have been trying to make sure that I look and feel good when I’m seeing him…or even when I’m not. You just never know when you might have an opportunity for a spur of the moment lunch or dinner!
As a guy, I have something else to say. A woman can be have the best hair, manicure, and wardrobe. But if she releys on gossip,is not informed on current events, or otherwise sounds dense, she will not be respected. In other words, having a trophy wife, does not guarntee sucess! A boss of someone trying to get ahead, notices how polished a spouse is. And believe me, intelligance and poise score highest.
(This is not to be taken as sexist ladies, it goes for guys too!)
Only thing I’d add is that confidence is sexy. Whatever you wear or do, own it!
Man…what is wrong with me…I don’t look at that stuff…
I mean I like to look good…and I usually do…but it is so unimportant to me what others look like…or what others think of me…or who I am with.
I kinda agree with Jack…I like to open the book a little…check out the table of contents–maybe the references. Classy, good-looking, sexy, confident, clean or not…I want to do some fruit inspection and ask my Father what He thinks!
I used to try to impress my husband, with my hair, clothes, nails…but he always had something critical to say…so I just dress for me…and if he likes it…then…that’s nice…but I dress the way I want to. Because, know I like it and that makes me feel confident.
Sometimes, if I know he particularly likes something…I will wear it…for him. But mostly I just wear what is going to make me feel my best.
Can’t wait until I can wear the things I really want to!
I agree with everyone here in one way or another.I guess I see things in a lot of different lights. The men want the whole package and sexy according to what I have just read here. I think the intelligence and everything that follows because of it are very important. My hubby said that unless a man is a control freak he wants his woman to be intelligent and strong, helping him as much as she can to be successful in life. He said trust is more important than anything to him. First and foremost like it was also said here, be yourself! Do it for you first and your confidence will shine through to others. There is nothing wrong with dressing for success either but I feel that the workplace is the ideal location for that. Confidence always feeds encouragement, motivation and consequently success! this is true but over confidence and overinflated pride, ego(the necessity for a trophy wife)trophy husband, clouds the brain from seeing the beauty that really matters, the one that lies within. My husband said that yes, he likes me looking my best when we go out because he knows that always boosts my confidence and because of that, he says I shine to him and others. Is it important to take care of yourself? for sure especially at our age but the care we take to lose the weight and to get fit is greatly due to staying healthy. It is not a shallow desire to impress one another or others but rather a sincere goal to hopefully live a long life with each other. Oh! my hubby also said that he would rather have a woman who is a little meaty and healthy than a shallow skinny, bone rattling model. Luv Ya! Linda
I guess I should now write a blog on what women think. I guess I should explain that I care about what my Father thinks and that I look deeper than the cover…after I find a man who is clean and neat and shows his confidence, not his pride.
I guess I also need to explain that if I ever marry again that I hope God gives me a husband that will love me for who I am and not be critical of me, but I hope I love him enough to care what other people think of him, and remember that other men will judge him by his wife and family…sometimes simply by what they see at first glance and sometimes by the observing more closely, so I need to be as clean, neat and well kept on the inside as the outside.
Rock on sista! Cleanliness is next to Godliness. You do not have to explain anything to anybody if they expect that from you than they are not worthy of your love. God sees you raising, praising and honoring Him. You will be compensated greatly for that huge heart when He decides the time is right! Luv Ya! sista! You are an inspiration to everyone!
i like this entry, people do judge a book by its cover. i wish i could afford a sleek put together wardrobe especiaqlly with the pink monster destroying everything i own
Straight people. As long as I live I will never understand them.
What? Like Gay people are from Saturn and Stright people are from Neptune?